Single Motherhood Ch. 2 - Finding the Positives

Finding the positives....hmmmm. Right, that's what we all strive for. Life becomes too negative if you don't. After reading my last blog post, I realized how defeated I sounded. It was a very honest feeling. Yet,  today I wake up like nothing has happened. And then it hits me. Resiliency is my positive. Sure all people are capable of almost anything in the worst of situations. But I'm not in the worst of situations. I have two totally awesome kids, who fill me with joy every day and I am lucky enough to be a part of their lives. Sometimes I look at parenting as a redo. Now DO NOT mistake this for re-living something in my children. I mean, I get to do things, activities with my children that I didn't get the opportunity to do with my parents and brothers. Such as, dancing, hula hooping, chasing my parents through the house just because it's fun, singing, did I mention dancing? This all comes down to setting up an emotional environment where my kids can be themselves. And growing up, I don't remember knowing that it was ok to just be me. I thought I needed to be something else. Subsequently, I have spent a lot of time in my life trying to figure out who I was supposed to be and who I was trying to please. Then one person comes into my life and helps me figure out that the only person I need to be is me. Resilient, that's a positive to who I am.